Disclaimer: in order to do this, you don’t actually have to be a lady. I am case in point.
I’m also not recommending you believe in curses per se, but believing in future generations is wildly effective at expanding and extending a lineage of love, life, and community.
“The Future” is kind of why we have public schools, take care of children, and protect and pass down assets of all kinds, don’t you think?
Future generations are literally life force manifest, which to me is better than death force manifest, so that’s why I’m starting with breaking curses as a way toward a beautiful future.
Believing in future generations also means believing in our great-great-grandchildren’s capacity for continued love and life.
And that you believe in future generations: that they will even exist.
I make this second point because there are many in media these days who are so freaked out by existential threats, they’d rather take to high seas on their super yachts, colonize Mars, and hand over operations to bullet-point-happy AI, instead of taking a good look at cleaning up any sh!t that was left by our elders, like the adults that we are.
This usually means first taking care of our home, you know, the natural one.
But curse-breaking? Why so dramatic?
If you are at all like me, you may kinda’ live in a bridge status – feeling like you are serving as a pass-through generation between your ancestors and future generations. If so, then curse-breaking is a pastime that may have peaked your interest.
I mean, what else am I going to do while writing posts and fixing toilets? Curse-breaking, yeah, that sound fabulous. Nearly cinematic.
And in my book, anyone who helps raise, educate, or create systems that truly support nature and children’s health and happiness is a generational curse-breaker. Same for those who stop cycles of over-consumption and careless ecology.
And, if you lovingly and intentionally share what you feel you didn’t have, you are breaking a curse of “lack.”
If you pay attention when you were ignored, you break the curse of invisibility.
If you suffered abuse but never abused, you break the curse of violence.
If you give when you were withheld from, you break the curse of poverty.
If you listen when you were not heard, you break the curse of voicelessness.
And so on.
The spiritual mechanics seem to be that when you give what you feel you need, you wind up healing yourself. And you also help future generations become more whole, or at least, load them up with the energy of approaching of wholeness. That alone is valuable.
I grew up without a dad in my daily life, and my kids have an awesome hands-on dad. This warms my heart like you wouldn’t believe, and I also hope it helps them have solidity where I had confusion and hunger. But that’s just one thing. We all know there are many ways we perceive lack. None of us had it all perfect. It’s okay. Generational healing is a process, and it takes a while.
Maybe forever. But what else is there to do?
I’ve been blessed to have had a mother who very specifically broke a cycle of violence, which must have taken an enormous amount of intentionality. Trauma sometimes makes people forget how to act, “hurt people hurt people” and all that. So, now I feel a duty to intentionally carry on toward wholeness because my mom was a helluva warrior, and I’m the daughter of one with an eye on the ball of healing as well.
I encourage you to take a deep breath and give a moment’s thanks to some elder who gave you something you needed, especially if they overcame strife in their own lives. Maybe you can figure out a way to do that for someone else today. Yeah, even if they aren’t a kid.
Fast formula to generational curse-breaking: give what you wish you had. And do not give what you wish you didn’t. And pay attention to boundaries of the person in front of you in case they are just not interested.
The reason why curse breaking moves us all forward, is that it builds a platform of stability in love literally built by another human. This kind of support can help carry us through deep grief and even dark nights of the soul, because it is support in memory and role model all in one. Every time we lean on each other, or can trust in the good nature of each other we help us all have…
a beautiful future
So, not to be light, but to also to be light, remember this scene from Moonstruck? Do you believe in curses? If you did, what can you do to break them?
