Family
toney atone: my family goals
There are a few things I’ve been saying to my family, hoping they’ll see things I see as problems and make “us” feel better. No one has wanted…
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Tag: self care
Family
make all the same mistakes I did
There’s been so much discontent between us, eldest kid. Maybe this is from me trying to shield you from mistakes, preventing you from falling on your face, and…
Best of Mommess
to women who’ve made themselves a holy mess of wonderfulness
This is a shout out to all women, like me, who have experienced trauma and made themselves a holy mess of wonderfulness. This is a shout out to…
Body & Health
I am my dogs
A generation ago, I had a dream, and I told my mentor about it. Black dogs are barking at me. It is depression. It looks like this (I…
Best of Mommess
Sinking Gifts. Rising Queen
I have been prone to depression, as have many of the women in my family. As are, no doubt, many others who are reading this. I have also…
Family
Holiday Jealousy. On Making Cheer
I’ve got to admit, I’ve been feeling a little sorry for myself. I feel like I work really hard taking care of a thousand things, and yet, I…
Body & Health
Anxiety Sideliner
There have been a few times in my life when anxiety attacks have changed the direction of my life. I think now, that I’m probably not the only…
Culture
They made their bed, let ’em lie in it
This is one of those posts I didn’t want to write. But this refrain keeps going through my head, so this is as good a way as any…
Culture
Open Letter of Empathy for Ben Jacobs
Hi Ben, I’m so sorry you were attacked. I’m even more sorry that then you were denied reality by the campaign’s initial statement where you were called “aggressive,”…
Family
Message for my daughter on Mother’s Day
Hi Tas, This morning I was in the bathroom and saw our little message chicken (you know, the one with a set of little papers with nice sayings…
Body & Health
A plan for coping with inauguration weekend
Here is what I am doing during the inauguration on Friday: 1) donating to the ACLU- RI (www.riaclu.org/get-involved/donate) 2) donating to Planned Parenthood (www.plannedparenthood.org ) 3) donating to…
Body & Health
Self Care Salvation
[first posted on Nov 10, 2016] I have been feeling shocked. But I will not stay there. When you are in shock, for real, you need stuff to…