One of these Master Class titles floated through my social media feed that says you should talk to yourself like a friend. Since I've been awakening
Slay the Protégé
In myth and in life, Proteges slaying Mentors is an age-old archetypal pattern, and one that represents an energetic exchange that can be uniquely
hitting the speed limit
Tomorrow I turn 55, and I kind of love this age and all it represents. This birthday reminds me of my old restaurant days when I waited tables in the
Being Right vs. Judgement
In my Buddhism practice, there is a practice statement that has been gnawing away at me. It's phrased so benignly, but the implications have been
Practice Notes – Jan 19
I've been taking Buddhism classes with Jungto Society, and I love them. The classes teach about the history, the philosophy, and the principles of
A wake of awakening
This is how I used to envision a life well lived: that every day, a person could leave behind them ripples of enlightenment, that would wash into
toney atone: my family goals
There are a few things I've been saying to my family, hoping they'll see things I see as problems and make "us" feel better. No one has wanted to
unsolicited something for ya
on Vulnerablity, Shame, and Energy Exchange Dear Young Adult, Last night you said that you felt I shamed you when I pointed out bad posture,
Reprise from ’99 – Top Ten Ways to Ease into Effortlessness
Waaayyy back in the day, I was a life coach with only a handful of clients and an overwhelming desire to churn out hundreds of articles. Most of these
Shortcut to Autopilot
A few times in my life, I discovered a tool so powerful, that it's use alone was enough to reach a goal. From about 15 on, all I've really wanted
Dear Young Fury,
You are in the hospital, intubated after your 5th attempt, and I still have yet share this truth with you. I hope it helps you know yourself and find
Uncanny Vibe Valley
how to know the difference between the real and artificial I believe our "uncanny valley radar" will be the only way we'll be able to tell the
passive income / passive outcomes
If you are like me and have many interests, maybe sometimes you go "all in" one on project, then drift off a bit toward the next thing, rinse and
See something, say something
My mom has always been an awesome writer. She went back to school when I was 10. Her professors fawned over her writing which raised money, started
Doing it ‘nice and rough’ – Tina Turner is my kind of Buddha
I have fifteen minutes to write this. I know Buddhsim works for me, and I want to practice every day. I've tried apps, books, meditation retreats and
Ode to my mom’s memory
"I'm living two timelines moving in different directions." I sat up in bed and said that to my husband last night. I've been plagued by night
make all the same mistakes I did
There's been so much discontent between us, eldest kid. Maybe this is from me trying to shield you from mistakes, preventing you from falling on your
Beyond Belief
I don't go to church, my kids don't either. The other day I realized that even though I don't engage with organized religion anymore, that there are
How to take a mental health day
skip to steps Today my 8 year old son and I took a mental health day. This was at my suggestion after he'd run into a frustration-styled brick wall.
Mercy mercy me
Why do you continue To say that the money is what matters? To tout it as the stuff of life. Why do you perpetuate this fakery, born of parlor
Coping: Part II in the Working Toward Transformation series
Last post was supposed to be about forgiveness, but wound up as an angry, toxic diatribe. I'll guess I'll call that Part I. I'm okay with this,
Why ask?
Truly great questions are like time-release peace bombs that detonate in real life. - W. Leitzen
to women who’ve made themselves a holy mess of wonderfulness
This is a shout out to all women, like me, who have experienced trauma and made themselves a holy mess of wonderfulness. This is a shout out to the
Praying is the last thing you should do
Now, don't get all hating on me for this. I believe in the power of prayer. Because of prayer, perhaps some important people in my life are alive.
Four Styles of Defining A Life
I wrote a chunk of a self-help book over a decade ago. It described the four styles people use to find — and define — meaning in their lives. These
Why I march
I am marching for all women's sovereign right to control their own bodies. Always. Same for men. I march for equal pay, for equal access to medical
The Nature of Outrage
Subtitled: the lifeblood of propaganda This emotion needs a close examination. Especially now. Especially because it is an "adult" emotion that is
And up we go again
After writing a few emotional posts lately, both "positive" then "negative," I feel I must quickly get something down in this space that is positive
Write what you want to learn
Many years ago, I trained to become a life coach. I went to conference after conference, took 2 years of tele-classes and put myself "out there" as a
Quantum Audience
In quantum physics theory, the intention of the experimenter can determine an experiment's outcome. In this tiny world of stuff, scientists have an
Message for my daughter on Mother’s Day
Hi Tas, This morning I was in the bathroom and saw our little message chicken (you know, the one with a set of little papers with nice sayings on
If we kiss the friggin’ frog…
I've been trying to live the following spiritual truths: once you accept something fully, then it can change know your shadow, and it won't
Personal is political
This has been said for a long time, but I am starting to see just how simplistically true it is. The repeal of Obamacare that just spectacularly
breaking through
I want more than anything to break through. Break through the fog that's clouded my country. The dark, gold dust-filtered smoke that chokes my loved
please for my birthday, mr. president
I'm asking for only one thing: please start acting like a winner. A good one. Good winners are fair to their opponents. Good winners are kind to
A Pledge of Human Decency
I'm not sure why I feel it is important to promote a pledge for human decency today. Maybe it is because I feel a little sick in my stomach, both
Red Face to Chance Grace
For the first time, I have experienced a random Trump supporter asking me how she could ameliorate election-based stress in her family. This came
Post-truth: a convenient lie
[originally posted 12/6/2016] In case you haven't already heard, here I present to you the Oxford Dictionary's 2016 word of the year: post-truth. This
Self Care Salvation
[first posted on Nov 10, 2016] I have been feeling shocked. But I will not stay there. When you are in shock, for real, you need stuff to survive. You
